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an open letter to my parents…

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Dear parents, thanks for putting up with me for so long…

No seriously, I can’t believe you managed to run a household and lead the life of a well-adjusted adult without losing your mind – especially when I complained about eating fresh veggies. I ask that you accept my apology for everything I took for granted during the years of having my food cooked and school books bought for me. Here are the top 6 things I appreciate the most now that I live away from home:




You bought cleaning products

One of the rudest awakenings of my young adult life was the realisation that cleaning products are:

  1. A necessity
  2. Expensive, and
  3. A huge part of your budget when you do a shop

I can safely say without hesitation that I have tried the worst of the worst when it comes to toilet paper, and that cleaning your toilet with spray and wipe is not the best use of the product. I will never EVER underestimate your ability to work, buy decent cleaning products and execute the cleaning of a house with such precision again. I tip my hat to you.




You came home and cooked at the end of the day. Every day.

I’m still coming to terms with the fact that I have to work full time to keep a roof over my head, so the idea that I have to come home every night after a long day and stand over a hot stove so I don’t starve is a little difficult. Yes, I’m aware that I’m being precious and it’s not that bad, but at the moment the thought of cooking tonight is tiring me out. Not sure how you managed to cook and then deal with it when we complained about eating veggies, but you did it, and that’s pretty impressive.



You paid bills we couldn’t dream of paying

It has only just occurred to me the true cost of funding your own lifestyle. And it’s bloody expensive! Having short showers and turning lights off when you’re not in the room are habits you need to learn the hard way, because the monetary cost of not doing these things will bite you in the ass every time. Every. Time. Sorry I left the lights on after you told me a thousand times to turn them off.



We had a dishwasher in our house

Dishwashers, as far as I’m aware, are God’s gift to humanity. The fact that I don’t have to wash up every dish when I visit your house is an incredible sensation, and every time I visit it happens to me all over again. Sure, I’m used to washing all my dishes in a sink. But boy would I be living the life if a machine did it for me. I know this costs money to run too, so all the more reason to appreciate it now!



You went to work after you sent us to school

More than anything I remember throwing tantrums about having to go to school, but you managed to get us fed, dressed and dropped off before class started. Then you went to work all day. Now when I get up in the morning I haven’t eaten breakfast, my hair is messy and I’m wearing odd socks because I forgot to do my washing. God forbid I somehow get a family of small humans up and out of bed and send them to school in the morning. I’m just nailing the whole “eat breakfast in the morning” habit.



Yes, this is all stuff you probably learned the hard way. And sure, there is a bit of an age gap between you and us, but we’re just figuring out how hard it is to support ourselves, and now all that stuff we used to take for granted is glaringly obvious. Thanks for being stellar parents and putting up with our crap. You the real MVP.


See you next week,

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